“I’m a Side – And Giving Pleasure is What Turns Me On”

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I’m a side, and for me sex isn’t about penetration. It is about presence and being sensual with the partner. What turns me on isn’t taking or being taken. It’s watching and hearing someone respond to my touch and all the nice things that I do to his body. That turns me on.

I love the slow build and the way desire grows little by little. I often like to give massages that gradually become more intimate and sensual. I love to use my hands, fingers, my tongue and my mouth to give pleasure. It’s so hot to hear the shift in their breathing when I do something just right. Knowing I’m reading them, and knowing that they feel safe enough to let go.

I love to rim and give oral if I feel safe with the guy. Sometimes a hand job is enough, or mutual masturbation. Love kissing, it really matters to me. But I don’t like the rushed kind of kissing.

So yes, I love giving pleasure, in so many different ways. I love using my hands, my mouth, my body. I love the closeness of it, being right there, feeling everything. I love knowing I’m the reason someone feels good. There’s something very erotic about focusing on another man’s experience in a connected way.

Sometimes sex ends in an explosive orgasm, but I don’t need a finish line to feel satisfied.

My best experiences with this type of side play have been with straight/bisexual or bi-curious guys who have come to my place to receive a massage. I don’t like to ask too many questions but I know that some of them have a wife and kids at home. I’m bisexual and in the closet, so I understand their situation 100%.