Expanded FAQ
More direct questions, better answers, and more nuance — especially around dating, compatibility, and communication.
About this site
Why PNW Sides exists
PNW Sides is a simple, supportive page for gay/bi men who don’t feel at home in the “top/bottom” script. Because intimacy isn’t one-size-fits-all — and great sex isn’t limited to penetration.
Built as a calm, static site — trust first, features later.
Quick facts
- PNW-focused
- Connection-first
- More content planned for 2026
Mission
Normalize side identity, reduce shame, and help side guys in the Pacific Northwest find clarity and community — without pressure, performance, or “pick a role” energy.
What “side” means (short version)
A side is a gay/bi man who generally isn’t into anal penetration (neither topping nor bottoming) and prefers other forms of sex and intimacy instead.
Want the full explanation? Head here: What is a side?
Why this matters
When culture only offers “top/bottom/vers,” people can feel isolated or broken. A simple word and a supportive space can make self-understanding (and dating) a lot kinder.
What this site is (and isn’t)
Setting expectations keeps the vibe safe and the community healthy.
This site is
- Informational and supportive
- Connection-first and consent-first
- Respectful of tops, bottoms, vers, and everyone else
- PNW-focused, low-pressure, and private by default
This site is not
- A hookup site or an explicit-content site
- A dating app or a public forum
- A place to shame anyone’s preferences
- A substitute for medical or mental health advice
Side is valid. Top/bottom is valid. Compatibility is real. Respect is non-negotiable.
Privacy (short & honest)
This site aims to be calm and privacy-respecting. It’s intentionally simple.
What we don’t do
- No accounts
- No tracking pixels
- No selling or sharing personal data
What we may log
Like most websites, the server may keep standard access logs for basic security and reliability (for example: time, page requested, and an IP address).
This site is not designed to identify you — it’s designed to inform and support you.
Contact / feedback
Have a suggestion, correction, or a question you’d like added to the FAQ? You can reach out here:
hello (at) pnwsides (dot) com
(Written this way to reduce bot scraping.)
What’s coming in 2026
This site will grow slowly and intentionally — in ways that match the values here.
Guides & conversation tools
Practical, respectful language for talking about being a side — without awkwardness or apologizing.
PNW community options
Low-key ideas like coffee walks, hikes, and connection-first gatherings — private, consent-first, and pressure-free.
If you found this site early, thank you. The quiet corners matter.
Disclaimer
This site is for information and community support only. It does not provide medical, mental health, or legal advice. If you need professional help, please reach out to a qualified provider.