Connection-first
Side guys often want intimacy that feels present and real: kissing, touch, chemistry, closeness, and mutual pleasure without pressure to perform a role.
Pacific Northwest • Low pressure • Real connection
Community
If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t fit the top/bottom script, you’re not alone. PNW Sides is here to make it easier for side guys across the Pacific Northwest to find each other — calmly, respectfully, and without pressure.
This page is intentionally simple for now. The goal is trust first — features later.
The vibe
- Connection-first, not role-first
- Private by default
- Respectful, emotionally mature
What “community” means here
Not a hookup site. Not a loud forum. Not a place where anyone owes anyone anything. Just a calm corner that says: “You’re valid — and you’re not the only one.”
Privacy-respecting
No public profiles, no location broadcasting, no “look at me” dynamics. The best community spaces feel safe before they feel social.
Slow is allowed
If you’re new to the idea of being a side — or still figuring it out — you’re welcome here. Clarity comes in its own time.
What you can do right now
A few low-pressure ways to connect — without turning this into a social network.
Use “side” language with confidence
If you date online, adding “side” can save you time and attract better matches. A simple line works:
“Side guy — not into penetration, very into kissing, touch, oral, and connection.”
You don’t have to over-explain. The right people will get it.
Share this page (quietly)
If someone you’re talking to doesn’t know what “side” means, linking pnwsides.com can be a gentle way to explain your preferences without making it a heavy conversation.
This site exists to reduce shame and confusion — and make honest intimacy easier.
Want to be notified when community options launch?
A low-volume update option is planned for 2026. No tracking, no spam — just occasional notes when something new is ready. (This is a placeholder for now.)
What’s coming in 2026
The goal is to grow community in ways that feel aligned with side values: calm, consent-first, and connection-forward.
Side-friendly social ideas
Low-key options like coffee walks, hikes, board-game nights, or conversation circles — with clear expectations and zero pressure.
Guides & conversation tools
Practical help for dating and relationships: how to talk about being a side, how to screen for compatibility, and how to build intimacy that works for both people.
PNW resources
A curated list of side-friendly voices, articles, and (where appropriate) local community resources — built carefully and respectfully.
If you’re reading this early: thank you. The quiet corners matter.
Community standards (simple on purpose)
If you’re here, you’re part of the vibe. Here’s what we protect.
Respect & consent
No coercion, no shaming, no “fixing” people. Side is valid. Top/bottom is valid. Compatibility matters — respect matters more.
Privacy & discretion
Don’t pressure anyone to share identifying info. Don’t screenshot or repost personal messages. Let people choose their pace.