Notes • Guides • Stories

Articles

Short, honest writing for side guys — and anyone who wants intimacy that’s connection-first. This section will grow slowly and intentionally through 2026.

No doomscrolling. No performative hot takes. Just clarity, kindness, and practical language.

What you’ll find here

  • Realistic dating & communication tips
  • Side identity clarity (without shame)
  • PNW-friendly community ideas

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When articles are published, they’ll appear here first.

Why I built this site

This is a brief personal story about how I came to understand my own way of connecting and desiring. It’s the context behind why this site exists.

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Finding my place on the "Side"

A personal reflection on side identity, and the long process of realizing that connection and intimacy don't need penetration to be real - or complete.

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2026-12-15 Identity

Why I built this site

Some context on why this site exists.

2026-12-15 Identity

Finding my place on the "Side"

More thoughts about being a side in the world of tops and bottoms.